Why is it that saying “thank you” has become a lost art?

The scenario:

You hold the door open at a restaurant for a friend. Next thing you know, five other people walk through the (same) door. That’s kind of you for holding the door for a group of strangers. Unfortunately, not a single person took the time to say, “thank you”.

How frustrating! If you had only heard those two sweet words…

A sincere “thank you” should be said when you are given something or when someone does something kind for you.  It is a simple and considerate way of showing appreciation for the generosity granted to you by others.

It’s not necessary to write a thank you note every time a door is opened (this could be construed literally and figuratively).  But just in case you need a refresher on how to write one, refer to our article The Anatomy of the Perfect Thank You Note (published on Four Hats Press).

In the meantime, the rules for saying “thank you” are really quite simple.  It’s all about taking…

  • Time out from being distracted (please look up from your cell phone)
  • Time out from feeling entitled (do you hear a high soprano operatic voice singing, “me, me, me, me”?)
  • Time out from being ungrateful (it’s time to turn that frown upside down)

While we’re on this topic, we would like to say, “thank you” for sharing your etiquette mishaps and experiences (please send us more!).

And to all door holders everywhere, thank you for your generous acts of kindness (regardless of the consequences).

Saying “thank you” …

  • It’s the most powerful weapon in our arsenal of goodness!
  • It’s the sword that can cut a Gordian knot
  • It’s the face that can launch a thousand ships
  • It’s the key that can open many doors